Frequently Asked Questions
What is psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy is a relationship entered into by a trained psychotherapist and a client for the purpose of helping the client with symptoms of mental illness and to achieve desired changes in their life.
What is the best type of psychotherapy for depression?
Probably the most studied type of psychotherapy for depression is Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This type of therapy focuses on the role of thinking and belief systems as the root of depression. During this type of therapy, the psychotherapist works with the client to help them recognize their dysfunctional thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and to change them to a more realistic perspective.
I have never talked to anyone about my emotions and I’m used to handling things on my own. Am I weak for seeking help?
No, not at all. In fact, those who are able to acknowledge that they need some guidance are already on the road to recovery and building a more resilient self. Everyone needs help at some point in their lives because everyone experiences pain, loss, and/or trauma in their lifetime. In our work together, I will help you identify your strengths and how to implement them as well as working on building healthy coping skills.
What is the difference between talking to a psychotherapist versus my best friend or family?
The difference between talking to friends and family versus a psychotherapist is that a psychotherapist is a clinically trained professional who can help you approach your situation in a new and safe way– teach you new coping skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself as we process what you are going through. Additionally, psychotherapy is completely confidential, which allows the client to speak more comfortably and honestly without worrying about others knowing their “business.”
Why not just take medication?
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with psychotherapy. However, medication treats the symptoms of your issues, and it does not heal the problem. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior, and teach you strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
What do I have to do in sessions? How does psychotherapy work?
Therapy is meant to be a safe space where you can come and discuss anything that is on your mind without fear of judgment. I don’t have any expectations about what you may need to process on any given day. All you have to do is show up and be willing to explore your thoughts and feelings. At times, I provide “homework,” which are commonly tools to practice during the week to help with progress and growth. Each individual has different challenges and goals, therapy will be different depending on the individual. However, I tailor my therapeutic approach to each patient’s unique needs and concerns.
How long will psychotherapy take?
Each client comes into therapy with a unique issue, which makes it challenging to say how long one will be in treatment. The length of time that psychotherapy can take for you to accomplish your treatment goals depends on your desire for personal development and growth, your commitment to therapy, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come for couples therapy?
If you and your partner are concerned about your relationship and are both willing to seek treatment then couples therapy might be best. Couples therapy helps work through relationship challenges as a unit versus alone in individual therapy. It is often the case that couples therapy can trigger one to need their own individual therapy to help process things that have come up. If after starting couples therapy, one of you would also like to begin individual therapy, I will help refer you to another psychotherapist for individual treatment.
Why is it difficult to recognize or admit to Postpartum depression or anxiety?
A new mother might not recognize symptoms of depression or anxiety because she is tired, overwhelmed, or simply adjusting to life with a baby. Some women are afraid of being seen as complaining or not able to handle motherhood, which makes it challenging to tackle such issues. Some women tend to blame themselves for not being able to handle things instead of realizing that it is a medical condition and not a sign of failure.
I never felt the “glow” that I was supposed to feel while expecting my baby. Is there something wrong with me?
No, it is very normal to have mixed emotions during this transition time. Some moms might feel ashamed or embarrassed about their feelings. When the expected glow of pregnancy or postpartum does not arrive, some mothers tend to blame themselves and feel embarrassed and/ or ashamed. The fear of admitting to negative feelings during the prenatal or postpartum period may lead to a fear of being labeled as a “bad mother.” Some new mothers are sad and teary; some feel overwhelmed and irritable; some bond well with their babies while others feel distant; some sleep all the time while others have insomnia. The up-and-down nature of symptoms also makes it difficult to recognize or admit any prenatal and/or postpartum depression or anxiety.
How is Postpartum depression and/ or anxiety different than the “baby blues?”
Most new mothers – experts estimate about 80% — experience mood swings and weepiness during the first 2-3 weeks after giving birth. Sometimes called “the baby blues,” this is a normal adjustment period and resolves without any medical assistance. However, if symptoms last longer and appear more severe it is best to consult with a professional as it can be symptoms of postpartum depression and/or anxiety.
Does postpartum depression and/or anxiety only appear in women?
Postpartum depression and/ or anxiety can be seen in men as well. The process of fatherhood has its own challenges and it is equally important that fathers take care of their mental health in order to enjoy the journey of parenthood to the fullest.
What if I am too overwhelmed and can’t leave the house with the baby, but I need to see a psychotherapist?
The initial days and weeks with a newborn can be stressful and overwhelming. For some moms it can even be scary to leave the house or get into a car. I empathize with this, which is why I offer my concierge service. I can come to you and provide therapy in home and/or we can take a stroll to address your postpartum symptoms.
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